Menopause can be a wild ride—one minute you’re fine, the next you’re sweating through your sheets, snapping at the dog, and wondering if your brain has just up and left the building. It’s a lot. And while you’re dealing with the rollercoaster of symptoms, your partner might be standing there, bewildered, not knowing what to do or say.
The key? Communication. Here’s how to start the conversation without it turning into a battleground.
1. Pick Your Moment
Menopause chats shouldn’t happen mid-argument or in the middle of a hot flush meltdown. Choose a time when you’re both calm and can talk without distractions. A relaxed walk or a quiet dinner at home works well.
2. Be Honest, But Keep It Simple
You don’t need to give them a full medical lecture on oestrogen decline, but help them understand what’s happening. Try something like:
“I’m going through perimenopause, and it’s affecting my mood, energy, and sleep. I’d love your support while I figure out what helps.”
3. Tell Them What You Need
Your partner probably wants to help but has no idea how. Be specific: “I need more patience when I’m irritable—it’s not you, it’s my hormones.”
“If I seem distant, it’s not personal. A hug (or space) would really help.”
4. Bring Them Into the Solution
Menopause isn’t just your journey—it impacts both of you. Find ways to navigate it together, whether that’s exercising, improving sleep habits, or even cutting back on alcohol.
5. Keep the Conversation Going
Menopause isn’t a one-time chat; symptoms change, and so will your needs. Check in regularly and remind them you appreciate their support.
Talking about menopause might feel awkward at first, but open communication can strengthen your relationship rather than strain it. Your partner doesn’t have to “fix” anything—just listening and being there can make all the difference.
